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Cooperative Parenting

Co-parenting is the experience of raising a child or children as a single parent when separation or divorce occurs. In order for co-parenting to be successful, empathy, patience, and open communication is required. Co-parenting isn't always easy, but placing the focus solely on the children is a great way to promote a positive experience. 

There are two ways of problem solving when co-parenting: strategic problem solving and social-psychological problem solving. Strategic problem solving looks at the issue at hand, while social-psychological problem solving is a more emotional way of resolving issues. 

Do's: 

  • commit to making co-parenting an open dialogue with your ex
  • rules should be consistent and agreed upon at both households
  • commit to positive talk around the house
  • agree on boundaries and behavioral guidelines
  • create an extended family plan 
  • recognize that co-parenting will challenge you 
  • be aware of slippery slopes
  • be boring
  • update often
  • go for the high notes

Don'ts:

  • don't burden your child/children 
  • don't jump to conclusions or condemn your ex
  • don't be an unbalanced parent 
  • don't give into guilt 
  • don't punish your ex by allowing your children to wiggle out of responsibility 
  • don't accuse, discuss

For more information on problem solving and the do's and don'ts of co-parenting, visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/two-takes-depression/201203/the-dos-and-donts-co-parenting-well

Psychology Today is a reliable resource for reading more on co-parenting. They have many different articles about all aspects of co-parenting, from co-parenting during the COVID-19 pandemic to co-parenting myths.