Co-parenting is the experience of raising a child or children as a single parent when separation or divorce occurs. In order for co-parenting to be successful, empathy, patience, and open communication is required. Co-parenting isn't always easy, but placing the focus solely on the children is a great way to promote a positive experience.
There are two ways of problem solving when co-parenting: strategic problem solving and social-psychological problem solving. Strategic problem solving looks at the issue at hand, while social-psychological problem solving is a more emotional way of resolving issues.
- commit to making co-parenting an open dialogue with your ex
- rules should be consistent and agreed upon at both households
- commit to positive talk around the house
- agree on boundaries and behavioral guidelines
- create an extended family plan
- recognize that co-parenting will challenge you
- be aware of slippery slopes
- be boring
- update often
- go for the high notes
- don't burden your child/children
- don't jump to conclusions or condemn your ex
- don't be an unbalanced parent
- don't give into guilt
- don't punish your ex by allowing your children to wiggle out of responsibility
- don't accuse, discuss
For more information on problem solving and the do's and don'ts of co-parenting, visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/two-takes-depression/201203/the-dos-and-donts-co-parenting-well
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